with Esther Jones from the Reset Academy
These videos were kindly provided by the Reset Academy and are an introduction as to how your thinking style can positively impact your life - for further details about the full course please visit https://www.resetacademy.info/
How do I see the world?
This session introduces the idea that we all see things differently, even when we are looking at the same things. It's good to question how you see things and think about how you can begin to view in world in a different, more positive, light.
Imagine a scenario and describe your feelings, firstly wearing your sad glasses, and then wearing your happy glasses. You can write these ideas down on the different glasses resource if you wish - just click on the button below to download it.
Beliefs vs. Facts
Today, we show how different facts can help support different beliefs and we look at how a belief is different to a fact. You will be challenged to think of two opposing beliefs and during the day look for evidence to support both.
Think of one of your beliefs and look for evidence in favour and also against. Think about the discussion we had about dogs in the video to support you with this.
Understanding your power
We look at the difference between different types of power and encourage you to recognise how you can control you life. You may not be able to control everything that happens to you, but do have a choice as to how to respond; this can lead to a completely different and more positive experiences.
Work on challenging your reactions to a particular person or event. Think about how you have the power to feel very differently now that you realise you have choice with your reactions.
Managing your imagination
Your imagination can influence fears, emotions and actions, and we have SO much control over our imagination. We will be looking at a real life example of this in action at the circus!
Take a specific challenge or event you are facing and plan how you would like to feel / react to it. Spend time imagining yourself ‘living out’ the experience a number of times before you do it for real.
Thinking to help you
We recap on the week’s activities and encourage you to start practising the concepts we have covered in order to help you have a stronger, more positive outlook on life.
What do you think about you?
We reflect on our self-esteem and introduce the idea that self-esteem needs to be charged, just like a phone or an iPad. It's important the we take note of positive experiences in our own lives: things we are proud of ourselves for. For example; achievements, kindness, good reactions and tolerance.
Write out a list of 5 things that you are proud of yourself for. Read through your list 3 times a day, then keep adding a new one each day.
How do I stop worrying about what other people think?
We often forget that most people are too busy worrying about themselves to be judging others and that different people behave differently when they feel judged. Our worries about being judged are controllable; only we are in charge of our reactions to other peoples’ thoughts - they cannot control us.
Think of someone that you feel judges you and look at the evidence - is their judgement a reflection of you or a reflection of them?
Changing dramatic language
Language has a lot of power to change how we see and experience the world. Some simple language changes can very quickly take the drama and emotion out of a situation. Monitoring your own language is an important skill and will give you options to change your experience of the world.
Make a note of dramatic language that you (and your friends / family) use. Try to change it for much calmer language.
Don’t be so hard on yourself
Holding ourselves to very high standards can be really hard and it is so important to give ourselves a break. Fear of failure that holds us back and stops us from trying new things. It can be a good idea to reduce their high expectations of ourselves and have a go at something new without worrying about getting it wrong as allowing ourselves to fail at something, and accepting it, can be liberating.
Set yourself a challenge to do or try something new. Give yourself the space to get it wrong / fail if necessary and recognise how proud you are of yourself for trying anyway - it feels amazing!
Thinking to help you
Let's reflect on all that we have learned over the last two weeks and continue building these new healthy habits to help you really enjoy life.